What You Forgot You Knew by Amanda Huber

I picked up a book recently that has been decorating my bookshelf for several years. I thought I had never read it and being in need of a new book I picked it up and scanned the introduction. It was really good stuff! Why had I never read this book before? Then I noticed that several pages were dog-eared. I had read it. What's more, the quotes from the pages I had marked might be even more inspirational to me today than they were when I first read them.

Thought is creative.
The world is as you see it.
As you think, so you are.

The book is called Secrets about Life Every Woman Should Know by Barbara De Angelis, PhD. I can't believe I had ever forgotten about it, but I know why I found it again - right under my nose and in plain sight all this time. Because I needed to.

Paragraph after paragraph echo the thoughts and ideas that drive this website. Obviously it is one of the many books I have read and absorbed into my consciousness over the years.

Over the past few months I have been absorbed in the day to day activities of running a small business and have not been able to devote the inward attention I need to myself. Finding this book again was one in a string of events that made me realize I had gotten away from the very thing that keeps me the most centered and happy with my life.

Learn to refocus your mind
in the direction you want it to go.

Take notice of what is around you and be aware that the simplest actions and renewals may be an answer to something that has been eluding you. Pay attention to the little coincidences in your life that seem to create a theme. The things we need most are sometimes right in front of us. We have only to truly open our eyes to see them.

Sometimes You Have to Let Go by Amanda Huber

Have you ever focused intently on achieving a goal you really wanted and wondered why it wouldn’t come to you? You’ve written it down, read it aloud night and day, meditated on it, stuck notes to yourself about it all over the house, your car and work and still you can’t seem to manifest it?

Late spring and summer is our slow time at work. It’s the time of year that we, as owners, start to fret a little bit at the rising digits of our back pay that is due to us. It’s at this time I focus most intensely on bringing new jobs in. I write number goals on slips of paper and focus on them. I listen to my hypnosis tapes about drawing opportunities toward me. I work 14 hour days. I bend over backward for the clients we have jobs due for. And yet, somehow… still no progress.

Finally one day in frustration I said to my business partner Jeannette. “I’ve been meditating, I’ve been focusing, and we’re still broke! What is up with that?” What she said made me really think about not just money but everything I wanted for myself. She said “Maybe you’re focusing too hard. Maybe you need to just let it go for awhile.” I think Jeannette is a genius.

In all the articles and books I’ve read about manifesting, a common theme is that you can’t focus in desperation. You have to declare your intent and then let it go. I had forgotten that important step.

Another important thing to consider is what you say to yourself or others (see “You Are What You Speak?”). If you train your subconscious well enough – and it doesn’t take much – it is going to follow through with its instructions.

About five weeks ago I had a coffee date that ended up being one of the best days of my life. After getting out of a long term relationship a year ago I had been on a string of really comically bad dates. I wondered why on earth I was attracting all the wrong men until I realized I had been telling myself that I needed a year before I got into another serious relationship. As soon as I realized this, like magic Rob appeared and we both knew from that first date that this was it. We have been just about inseparable since our second date and are happily making plans for the future together.

Next time you’re frustrated that things you want and have focused on just aren’t working out right, try to let it go for awhile and double check to make sure you aren’t sabotaging yourself with your very words. Do something to pamper yourself, get away (even if it’s just to the park across town) and just breathe. The things you want will come to you eventually. Trust me on this one.